As we approach February 14th, it is appropriate to reflect on relationships and their significance.
Ponder the following:
1. Most people spend more time shopping for a new vehicle than finding a partner. Slow down and consider what you need and can offer before you commit.
2. Dating is way of determining whether you are compatible but does not guarantee long-term happiness, especially if you aren't being honest with yourself about what you need.
3. Going from dating to common-law in a short period of time is risky. Determine to date for a year without living together so that you can see how the other person deals with holidays, seasons and problems.
4. The "honeymoon" stage doesn't last long. What used to be "cute" can become "annoying", especially when the bills come in, the career is stressful and illness shows up.
5. Maturity and good mental health practices offer more stability for a partnership than physical attractiveness. Do good trumps look good!
6. People don't divorce because of conflict. They divorce because they don't know how to resolve the conflict. Learn how to deal with issues in a healthy manner.
7. Over fifty percent of married couples divorce. (Stats do not include those couples who are separated). Be thankful if you are happy and look forward to spending time with your partner.
8. Some couples are unhappy but stay together for a variety of reasons (children, finances, religion, shame). If you are both willing to seek professional help, learn some new skills and forgive, you can improve your situation.
9. Statistics for second marriages that end are higher than for first marriages. You can't just blame your first spouse for everything! Work on your weaknesses or you will marry and be the wrong person your second time around.
10. Better to be 80% happy on your own than 100% miserable with a partner.
Instead of focusing solely on romance this Valentine's Day, consider and express love to people around you. For a child, a paper heart. Cookies for a stay-at-home parent. For a stranger, a smile. Extra assistance for a coworker. Donations to a charitable organization. A word of encouragement to a neighbor.
Ponder the following:
1. Most people spend more time shopping for a new vehicle than finding a partner. Slow down and consider what you need and can offer before you commit.
2. Dating is way of determining whether you are compatible but does not guarantee long-term happiness, especially if you aren't being honest with yourself about what you need.
3. Going from dating to common-law in a short period of time is risky. Determine to date for a year without living together so that you can see how the other person deals with holidays, seasons and problems.
4. The "honeymoon" stage doesn't last long. What used to be "cute" can become "annoying", especially when the bills come in, the career is stressful and illness shows up.
5. Maturity and good mental health practices offer more stability for a partnership than physical attractiveness. Do good trumps look good!
6. People don't divorce because of conflict. They divorce because they don't know how to resolve the conflict. Learn how to deal with issues in a healthy manner.
7. Over fifty percent of married couples divorce. (Stats do not include those couples who are separated). Be thankful if you are happy and look forward to spending time with your partner.
8. Some couples are unhappy but stay together for a variety of reasons (children, finances, religion, shame). If you are both willing to seek professional help, learn some new skills and forgive, you can improve your situation.
9. Statistics for second marriages that end are higher than for first marriages. You can't just blame your first spouse for everything! Work on your weaknesses or you will marry and be the wrong person your second time around.
10. Better to be 80% happy on your own than 100% miserable with a partner.
Instead of focusing solely on romance this Valentine's Day, consider and express love to people around you. For a child, a paper heart. Cookies for a stay-at-home parent. For a stranger, a smile. Extra assistance for a coworker. Donations to a charitable organization. A word of encouragement to a neighbor.
Read also: Signs You are Begging for Love
Also, if you've made a romantic commitment to someone, try to express how grateful you are to have him or her in your life using honest and well-thought-out words! They will be appreciated for years to come since they are more powerful and last longer than cut flowers.
